Double Frenectomy, 3 weeks later

I want to say that our world has been turned upside down because the difference has been that drastic, but in reality it would be more accurate to say that our world has turned right side up.  We have been struggling since she was born.  Really, she was a miserable, tough baby.  I believed that she had been easy because I think that I just had no idea what to expect and set my expectations really low, but the more I spoke with other mothers who would say things like, “my little is such a bad sleeper, still not sleeping through the month at 4 months,”  or “my baby eats constantly, like more than every 3 hours, at 5 months,”  et cetera… I began thinking that while I was experiencing all of these things that made their babies “bad”  (and significantly more “bad” traits)  I considered my little girl a great baby.

I began to realize that everybody simply had higher expectations for their babies than I did.  They wanted to sleep through the night whereas I had accepted that it would never happen, and I was just happy she was getting 2 consecutive hours of sleep between each wake up (at 8 months old).  I had accepted that my little girl would be fed small meals constantly throughout the day because any more and she would throw it all up.  I had accepted the fact that she had to have a pacifier to prevent her from vomiting all of her food after every meal, and I was okay with those things.  We were struggling, but we were okay.

Since her double frenectomy she has truly become the great baby I have always said she was.  She is sleeping through the night almost consistently, which she had never done pre-revision.  She eats two times more during each feeding than she was eating before, and she doesn’t care for her pacifier as much as she did previously, among so many other things.  She cries much less throughout the days and I believe that is because she isn’t feeling a constant hunger like she was before because she is actually able to keep her food down.

The biggest struggle I have dealt with in the past 2 months is that I gave up breastfeeding her a month before her revision.  She had begun losing weight drastically and I was at my wits end with the asinine pediatricians ignoring every request for referral and complaint about E.  Had I known that in just one month that she would be fixed, I would have kept going, but that one month was enough to change her eating habits and prevent breastfeeding from being a possibility again.

If you believe that your little one has a lip or tongue tie and your providers are telling you no, or completely avoiding the topic, please see a preferred provider (I will include the current list on this blog post).  Many doctors, even fresh out of residency, are not educated on ties and all that they cause.  This list also includes support groups on facebook for each state or region.

Tongue Tie, Lip Tie

Frenectomy follow up

10 day follow up

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Double Frenectomy, 10 days later

In this week and a half, we have experienced so much change!  Elizabeth’s double frenectomy (lip and tongue tie releases) went well.  They were heartbreaking to watch, but overall a more positive experience than I had expected.  The stretches lasted a full 7 days, and they were so tough.  To do the lip stretches I would pull her lip away from her gums, toward her nostrils.  At that point, with a numbing gel on my finger, I would roll my finger in the cauterized spot to prevent it from healing back together.  The tongue was essentially the same process.  She fought so hard.

I was so so fortunate in that my mother in law was able to come and help me out.  Together, we were able to do Elizabeth’s stretches every 3 hours during awake times.  My mother in law would hold Elizabeth’s arms down while I quickly did the stretches, they would take about 30 seconds total, and we would feed her immediately following.  On the 7th day we had a follow-up appointment with our IBCLC.  We were told that Elizabeth’s mouth was healing wonderfully and the aggressive stretches that we had been doing were no longer necessary, and to just do a less invasive stretch instead.

We seem to be doing so well!  She had never slept through the night before her releases on the 30th (8.5 months old) and since that night she has been sleeping from about 8pm until about 4am.  A few of the nights she woke up a couple times.  Should I add that she is also growing 4 teeth in the top?  She eats about twice as much as she did before the correction, could almost immediately say mama and dada after the correction, but would only say “baba”.  She doesn’t throw up after eating anymore, we can actually see her tongue moving both when her mouth is open and when it’s closed by looking at the muscles on the sides of her head, and the lists go on!

If your child is suffering from lip or tonuge ties, don’t let fear of the revision prevent you from getting it fixed.  The benefits completely outweigh the heartbreaks throughout the process, and the improvements will be a breath of fresh air with your little one!

Tongue Tie, Lip Tie

Frenectomy follow up

3 week follow up