Today’s daily prompt is Vision, and I’m going to tackle it like this: The way that people in society see others based on their social media posts. This hits home to me lately because I have been completely fed up with situations I have been noticing during the recent years. I try to keep my blog posts entirely light hearted and real, and this is real, but won’t be light hearted.
The more time I spend on social media the more I realize a specific trend. Certain people’s posts on social media displaying their “perfect” lives grant them the perfect facade. I have discovered (from knowing people personally and being observant on social media) that those who publish the most about how glorious their lives and relationships are are actually, typically, the most unhappy or unsatisfied. The posts are made in an attempt to persuade not only their followers, but themselves, that they are, in fact, happy. It is as though if the rest if the world believes it to be true, that it will become true. However, the people who I know to be truly happy and in healthy relationships do not share constantly on social media their appreciation for one another, instead they share it with that other person.
There is a large group of people who fall for this “facade of happiness and perfection” trend, and that large group is heavily the majority. These people see happy posts and believe them to be true. What they do not see is that the man posting how amazing his marriage is will avoid going home as he regrets time with his wife. The followers do not see that the woman posting how much she loves her amazing husband, doesn’t show or tell him, and is abusive toward him in many textbook ways. They do not see that the happy go lucky young woman posting inspired visionary posts is completely lost and desperately searching for approval and acceptance, unhappy with her place in life. These people also don’t see the people who love and cherish their partners every tiny ounce, because they don’t spend their time advertising it on social media, forcing it down people’s throats on their newsfeed. Instead these “non posters” are spending that time for the betterment of their lives and relationships in the real world.
As the observer, I have also noticed the response. It is a highly successful tact for the less-than-satisfied original posters to use, because at least other people believe them to be truly happy. In this scenario, seeing really is believing. Viewers, or followers on social media, see the overcompensated happiness spewing from their screens and find it to be fact. This is harmful in that they believe other people who are not posting in a similar fashion must not be in the best place with their relationship or life when in reality, they could not be any more wrong.
Upon observing this trend I did a bit of research, what I found was confirming. Studies have been done recently and have found this hypothesis of mine to be absolutely true. In fact some have even used the terms, “cry for help”.
With this, I ask of you as a reader to dig deeper. Notice if the happy poster is truly happy, or just happy in public, or on a form of social media. Is that “happy poster” displeased or abused behind closed doors? Dig deeper. Does that happy poster actually have the ability to make decisions for themselves or are they bound by their manipulatie spouse?
The most personal aspect of this particular piece is that I have asked of you to dig deeper and here I will use my own personal relationship/life facts as my summarizing example with social media and real life…
Dig deeper: Please do not thank me for my one simple caption stating “I love him” about my husband stating that it is so reassuring to know. Be assured that I do love him by seeing the support I give him daily. Be assured by knowing that I have sacrificed my dreams to be by his side while supporting his, as our dreams are incompatible. Don’t be assured I love him by a “I love him” post on facebook. Know I love him by observing that we are a team and there is no one dictator in our marriage. Dig deeper. Know that we are healthy in our lives by seeing how we connect, communicate, and relate in person, and comfort we share with each other. Know that we love each other by seeing our similar interests and hobbies, and the support we show each other in real life.
Don’t “know” that somebody is happy and healthy by posts on social media, because that might just be a cry for help.