Mom Workout with the Husband

That is never happening again.  We tried to do a workout video together.  Never.  Again.  My husband is always doing goofy things when we workout together but frequently forgets how much more in-shape he is than I am.  When jogging I will be wheezing and suffering and he’ll be spinning in circles with every step, I kid you not.

This video was no exception.  I LOVE this workout, I’m always feeling it days after.  The workout is the perfect amount of stretch, warm up, kick-your-butt, then cool down yoga.  It even includes modified versions for lower impact or less demanding moves.  My husband did not appreciate the mom workout.  He kept saying, “I don’t workout like this.”

We’ve learned that together we can workout his way, and we can jog (which we both despise), but we cannot workout my way.  Too bad, at least we tried and at least we got that workout in.  I am so excited to try move of these ladies workouts!  After completing their 30-minute cardio video which is linked again here for you, I am feeling sore in my shoulders (deltoid muscles to be precise) and in my calves.

Head over to that link posted above (or here) for the workout that I’ll go back to after I try a couple more from these ladies over at CafeMom Studios.

This is the next workout of theirs I plan to tackle.  Wish me luck!

Change in Routine

This afternoon I put Elizabeth down for a nap sooner from a wake-up than we typically experience.  She has begun to nap 3 times a day and today was like that, but was strange in that she woke up from a nap just before 3pm and became grumpy and groggy around 4.  I’m all about putting her down to sleep whenever she needs it because dealing with a cranky tired baby isn’t fun for anybody and it’s unnecessary.  If she’s tired it’s because she needs sleep and nothing will resolve the tiredness except sleeping.

It isn’t uncommon for her to take a quick 30 minute nap around 6pm, but it is almost 11pm and she is still asleep from going down at 4:30.  I am so worried about what tonight will bring.  Is she going to wake up at 2am and be ready for the day to begin?  Will she sleep until 7ish like she usually does?  Is she finally sleeping off the remainder of her head cold? (Yes please)!  Or will this be the calm before the storm?

I am keeping my fingers crossed that tonight is smooth and that she just needed a bit extra sleep to boost herself for either her immune system, growth, or maybe the 4 teeth popping through her upper gums.

Debt

One of the struggles goals my husband and I have is to become debt free.  I was raised by a resilient single mother who made sure to let us know that getting out of debt is always possible, and that debt isn’t always bad.

My husband and I have numerous types of debt including my student loans, vehicle loans, personal loans and credit card debt.  Besides the credit card, my student loans have the highest interest rate which is so discouraging and frustrating, but unavoidable at this point.  The personal loan was used to pay for our wedding, and we currently have both of our cars financed.

I have taken it upon myself to get us free of debt long before expected, and I will not rest peacefully until it is all paid (just kidding, I sleep hard).

Some things we do in order to achieve that goal are:

  • Overpay every month.  We don’t overpay every loan currently, but we do on most.  For example, one (10 year) student loan’s monthly payment is $50, and we pay $125.  We also overpay on both of our vehicles and of course on any credit card debt.  We do this by interest rate: student loan is about 7%, both cars around 3.5%-4%.
  • Any extra money goes toward a designated debt.  Our entire tax return went toward debt, though I don’t remember which at this time.  I like to think of this as “money we never received”.  That thought process allows us to not miss any money at all, or overspend immediately after receiving it.
  • We don’t go out to eat frequently, in fact, it is very uncommon for us.  It has been such a money saver and health improvement for us.  It isn’t uncommon, however, for my husband to have lunch meetings and have to buy food for those, but those are much cheaper than us eating dinner out 2 times a week and other meals on weekends.
  • Groceries!  We are pretty darn good, if I may say so myself, about what we purchase in the store.  We skip most aisles which allows us to avoid boxed cookies, crackers, snacks, and other expensive impulse buys.  We also cook our meals from scratch.  Rather than spending $13 on a box dinner, we will make it homemade for $4.
  • Entertainment.  We don’t have cable, we utilize Netflix and Amazon Prime, and we don’t go to the movies except for special occasions like Starwars Episode VII.
  • We don’t leisurely shop.  We purchase new clothes as needed here and there but we don’t buy new wardrobes every season or anything crazy like that.
  • Buying used and DIY.  One of the largest time consuming aspects of our lives is DIY.  We save so much money by being patient, searching and browsing, and purchasing great deals on used decor and furniture.  From there we update them to be how we want them and love our not-like-everybody-else’s-rooms.  (I HATE room furniture sets. I think they’re so matchy and uncreative!)

I’m comforted that by living more conservatively we can get ourselves debt free before the expected time, and by doing so, save ourselves money on the interest of those debts!

If you have any techniques, please share!  I’ve become addicted and have started challenging myself about how much I can chisel away.

Back Yard Project

I love being outside even if I’m just lounging in a chair reading a book or on the internet, it is always better when outside in the fresh air.  The house we live in now is lacking in the back-yard-awesomeness.  When we moved in it was patchy grass and an awkward concrete path that leads from the house to the service road/mailbox which separated the yard in half.  Upon move in we fenced the yard in for the dogs and then the yard sat all winter.

Come spring I was itching for some sort of patio area to lounge on with my pups and Elizabeth, so we began researching projects as we always do.  The biggest struggles we face are: 1. we don’t want to spend a lot of money because it’s temporary (2 years from now we move again), and 2. we have to remove anything we add, so we don’t want take-down to be too intense.

With that being said we couldn’t put a leveled out patio in because digging the ground up now and later is just too much work, so we decided on something raised.  More research for ideas and product prices we decided to build a deck which I am hoping will be put together by the end of the month (fingers crossed).  We have a dining set that we received as a housewarming gift that was on super clearance.  It is aluminum so it doesn’t weigh much and won’t rust, with cushions on all 6 of the chairs, and it was $130.  I had no idea the actual price of the set until we went into Home Depot this spring and found it for $800.  I had to pick my jaw up off the floor.

This spring we have purchased a gazebo with full netting and have everything set up except the decking.  I have such an itch to get out there and do it (I tried, I’m not physically strong enough to do what needs to be done).  Hopefully I can light a fire under my husbands butt to get this thing done ASAP!

Double Frenectomy, 3 weeks later

I want to say that our world has been turned upside down because the difference has been that drastic, but in reality it would be more accurate to say that our world has turned right side up.  We have been struggling since she was born.  Really, she was a miserable, tough baby.  I believed that she had been easy because I think that I just had no idea what to expect and set my expectations really low, but the more I spoke with other mothers who would say things like, “my little is such a bad sleeper, still not sleeping through the month at 4 months,”  or “my baby eats constantly, like more than every 3 hours, at 5 months,”  et cetera… I began thinking that while I was experiencing all of these things that made their babies “bad”  (and significantly more “bad” traits)  I considered my little girl a great baby.

I began to realize that everybody simply had higher expectations for their babies than I did.  They wanted to sleep through the night whereas I had accepted that it would never happen, and I was just happy she was getting 2 consecutive hours of sleep between each wake up (at 8 months old).  I had accepted that my little girl would be fed small meals constantly throughout the day because any more and she would throw it all up.  I had accepted the fact that she had to have a pacifier to prevent her from vomiting all of her food after every meal, and I was okay with those things.  We were struggling, but we were okay.

Since her double frenectomy she has truly become the great baby I have always said she was.  She is sleeping through the night almost consistently, which she had never done pre-revision.  She eats two times more during each feeding than she was eating before, and she doesn’t care for her pacifier as much as she did previously, among so many other things.  She cries much less throughout the days and I believe that is because she isn’t feeling a constant hunger like she was before because she is actually able to keep her food down.

The biggest struggle I have dealt with in the past 2 months is that I gave up breastfeeding her a month before her revision.  She had begun losing weight drastically and I was at my wits end with the asinine pediatricians ignoring every request for referral and complaint about E.  Had I known that in just one month that she would be fixed, I would have kept going, but that one month was enough to change her eating habits and prevent breastfeeding from being a possibility again.

If you believe that your little one has a lip or tongue tie and your providers are telling you no, or completely avoiding the topic, please see a preferred provider (I will include the current list on this blog post).  Many doctors, even fresh out of residency, are not educated on ties and all that they cause.  This list also includes support groups on facebook for each state or region.

Tongue Tie, Lip Tie

Frenectomy follow up

10 day follow up

Continue reading “Double Frenectomy, 3 weeks later”

Elizabeth’s 9 Month update

April 14, 2016 | 9 months 

This bundle of joy is 9 months old today! This month was such a big month for her. Elizabeth had a double frenectomy and has 4 upper teeth coming through. She now only wakes up once (twice infrequently) during the night and takes 2 decent naps during the day. The only thing she dislikes more than diaper changes is getting dressed/wearing clothes. She tosses things aside when they are in her way, can communicate “more” and “no more,” and can say “mama” and “dada”.

Double Frenectomy, 10 days later

In this week and a half, we have experienced so much change!  Elizabeth’s double frenectomy (lip and tongue tie releases) went well.  They were heartbreaking to watch, but overall a more positive experience than I had expected.  The stretches lasted a full 7 days, and they were so tough.  To do the lip stretches I would pull her lip away from her gums, toward her nostrils.  At that point, with a numbing gel on my finger, I would roll my finger in the cauterized spot to prevent it from healing back together.  The tongue was essentially the same process.  She fought so hard.

I was so so fortunate in that my mother in law was able to come and help me out.  Together, we were able to do Elizabeth’s stretches every 3 hours during awake times.  My mother in law would hold Elizabeth’s arms down while I quickly did the stretches, they would take about 30 seconds total, and we would feed her immediately following.  On the 7th day we had a follow-up appointment with our IBCLC.  We were told that Elizabeth’s mouth was healing wonderfully and the aggressive stretches that we had been doing were no longer necessary, and to just do a less invasive stretch instead.

We seem to be doing so well!  She had never slept through the night before her releases on the 30th (8.5 months old) and since that night she has been sleeping from about 8pm until about 4am.  A few of the nights she woke up a couple times.  Should I add that she is also growing 4 teeth in the top?  She eats about twice as much as she did before the correction, could almost immediately say mama and dada after the correction, but would only say “baba”.  She doesn’t throw up after eating anymore, we can actually see her tongue moving both when her mouth is open and when it’s closed by looking at the muscles on the sides of her head, and the lists go on!

If your child is suffering from lip or tonuge ties, don’t let fear of the revision prevent you from getting it fixed.  The benefits completely outweigh the heartbreaks throughout the process, and the improvements will be a breath of fresh air with your little one!

Tongue Tie, Lip Tie

Frenectomy follow up

3 week follow up