Double Frenectomy

I felt ridiculous and helpless at the same time while watching my tiny little human be wrapped up tight, pinned down by three adults, and a fourth laser her two ties.  It was truly heartbreaking.  Obviously it was the best thing to do and was being done by the best people, and in the best way.  They were so patient with miss E and as gentle as they could be, which was very reassuring.  Every few seconds, although it felt like minutes, they would pause to allow her to calm down which prevented her from becoming too afraid/frustrated/difficult.  The instant they handed her to me after they were finished she stopped crying and cuddled into me for comfort.

I was so anxious about today.  For so many reasons, the largest being the procedure, and a close second being the 2+ hour drive there and back, particularly back.  I was so concerned that Elizabeth would be in so much discomfort that we would be forced to stop every 30 minutes for comfort, but she was so wonderful.  She was so sleepy from the stress of the entire debacle that she slept for a large portion of the way home, even after sleeping for over an hour after the procedure while we were still at the office!  She was such a champ!  When she was awake in the car she was content playing with a sensory book or rattle.  I cannot begin to explain my relief of the trip home.  I was so sure that she and I would cry the whole way home.

Although everything I’m sharing about today is positive, it was a really hard day.  Tomorrow I begin her stretches which is the 3rd of the 3 things I’ve been really stressed about.  Positive thoughts and prayers worked wonders for us today, I’m keeping my fingers crossed that they work their powers tomorrow and the weeks following as well.

Tongue Tie, Lip Tie

 10 day follow up

3 week follow up

Tongue Tie, Lip Tie

Ever since I was a brand new mom, I knew something wasn’t right with my baby girl.  Things were popping up in our nursing relationship that I had never heard of, and I did extensive research during pregnancy.  She had symptoms of so many things that were all over the place that none of my other mom-friends experienced, and I was lost.

The following are symptoms of ties in a baby, I’ve made symptoms we suffered through bold:

  • Nursing blisters on baby’s lips
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  • Excessive gas
  • Excessive hiccups
  • Colic
  • Reflux 
  • Noise while feeding,  a click, pop, or loud swallowing noise
  • Excessive drooling not associated with teething
  • Shallow, painful latch
  • “Lipstick” shape nipple immediately after the baby releases
  • Fussy feedings, not relaxed
  • Constant latching and unlatching during feedings
  • Leakage during feedings
  • Frequent feeding
  • Long nursing sessions
  • Excessive weight gain (because baby is trying so hard to eat, he/she eats more)
  • Low weight, or weight gaining issues
  • Short naps, never sleeping peacefully
  • Infrequent swallowing
  • Unable to hold latch on breast, bottle, or pacifier
  • Constant need to suck on breast, pacifier, finger, etc.
  • Recurring mastitis, or clogged ducts
  • Supply issues
  • Sore, damaged nipples that don’t seem to heal
  • Green stools
  • Scoop in the tongue 
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  • Gagging
  • Snoring while sleeping

With all of these symptoms I was sure that she had ties, but no doctors would even look at  her mouth when I brought it up.  We saw two separate pediatricians before she was 3 months old, and neither paid any attention to it because she didn’t have weight issues.  We moved from California to North Carolina and almost the same situation happened with the next two doctors we saw.  The first said used the weight-gain excuse and ignored it, and the second at least entertained the idea and looked into Elizabeth’s mouth, raising her lip, and checking her tongue.  He noticed a very tight frenulum at her upper lip, but said that because she’s able to stick her tongue out, it wouldn’t cause any issues.  At least this doctor tried, even though he wasn’t really sure what he was saying.

I struggled through with her issues, (she’s 8 and a half months old and still dealing with all of them) and trying to find the best place to get it taken care of/save the money for the procedure.  Luckily we were able to secure a spot at an event which would allow us a little money saving, and still have it done in the preferred way.  The preferred was is done with a laser and no anesthesia.  I met with a local IBCLC (International board certified lactation consultant) who confirmed Elizabeth’s ties very quickly.

She had me hold Elizabeth on my legs with the top of Elizabeth’s head toward her (Tori) stomach.  Elizbeths feet were against my torso.  From that angle she was able to test the upper lip’s ability to move, to which she stated that it was very restricted.  She maneuvered Elizabeth a couple times to get the best angle.  She felt under Elizabeth’s tongue, the sides of her mouth, and the roof, to which Elizabeth responded with a big gag.

Tori was absolutely amazing (of Tiny Tummies Lactation Services in Jacksonville, NC).  She was so personable, knowledgeable, caring, understanding, and relatable.  Literally every positive adjective for a person/service can be said about her.  I hope to never need to use her services again, but will gladly do so if the need arises.

Tomorrow we will drive over two hours to a dentist and meet with a team of lip/tongue tie educated folk and I am so anxious about it.  I cried on the way home from visiting Tori when I realized that Elizabeth will, in fact, have her ties lasered tomorrow.  What makes it even worse is that my husband is out of town so I will be making this journey on my own (and Elizabeth, of course).

I’m hoping that the two hour drive home isn’t too terrible and that we can have the meltdowns and more painful experiences in the comfort of our house rather than in a parking lot of some random building or on the side of the road.

Please keep us in your thoughts and prayers for a positive (as much as possible) experience and recovery, especially the trip home. ❤

Frenectomy follow up

10 day follow up

3 week follow up

Our Wedding

Only recently have I realized that I never really covered our wedding story!

I’ll start with saying: It was cold.  Truly, it was so cold many of our guests experienced the coldest temps they ever had before, and ever will again.  We married on January 3, 2014 after being engaged for a little over 7 months. It was not very difficult to plan a wedding in 7 months mainly because our wedding was off-season.

It was about -30 degrees including windchill on our wedding day, in the lake-front city of Burlington, Vermont.  The absolute biggest disappointment from our wedding was our photographers who completely dropped the ball and missed many photos, but I’ll include the ones they did take here.


I was unbelievably fortunate in that my bridal party, friends and I were willing, and skilled to do much of the wedding on our own.  My maid of honor and best friend is skilled in the floral-area and put together the bouquets and centerpieces, with the help of the remaining bridal party.  She did an absolutely beautiful job on the bouquets especially.  The center pieces can be seen in the background of a later photo, but they were rather simple, though, in my opinion, successful.


My patent leather shoes were my “something blue” and they also matched my husbands blue trousers, which are what are considered appropriate for wearing Dress Blues in the winter.


My pearl necklace and earrings were my “something borrowed” and “something old” as they were lent to me for the wedding by my mom, and she has had them for quite some time.  My something new was the corset I wore under my dress.


My dress was ivory, because white made me look like a ghost, and it was by Vera Wang.  The way the train “waved” at the end was the deciding factor for me, I thought it was so pretty.  I also wore a waist-length veil and did not cover my face with it because, come on, no spirit is going to steal my soul as I walk down the aisle, and that’s just a little too extreme for me.


We married January 3rd so I had no classes to deal with, or assignments lingering over my head, and I was to start my final undergrad semester just weeks after our wedding.  Had we waited, and had a late-May wedding (which we wanted), it would have cut into Will’s training school which is just poor planning.  He reported to TBS before I graduated college, so we made a very wise decision to wed the January before all of that hectic fun.

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We were so fortunate to have been married by the pastor who I grew up with, and she was amazing.

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We also had a Marine Corps sword ceremony.  We knew that we were going to either have all USMC, or ceremony at all.  I don’t like the way the mixed ones look, I guess I’m just picky.  We were also very lucky that everybody was so willing to help out.  (Thanks guys!)  We had two 2nd Lt’s, 2 gunnies, and 2 staff sergeants.  I don’t know how it worked out that way, but the symmetry was awesome for my nit-pickiness.


It was so cold my flowers wilted taking our outdoor photos.


I seriously dislike the taste/texture of fondant so we decided on a buttercream frosting, and my husband instantly liked the swirly finish this cake had.  I also worked for the catering at a country club when I was in high school and experienced so many super specific cake flavors that most of the guests disliked, and a rare few loved, so I decided on a simple white cake with vanilla frosting.  Simple is the best way to ensure that the vast majority is happy.  I actually served a wedding where one of the bride’s cousins had very specific dietary needs, which the bride insisted the cake be fit for.  It was gross, you couldn’t cut into it without it falling apart, none of the guests liked it, just bad.  She could have easily had a cupcake made for her cousin and a normal cake for everybody else.  And there is my simple wedding cake lesson.


My mom’s talent and super generosity  was shown in the wedding favors we had.  She made small homemade jams and jellies for each guest.  We had black raspberry, strawberry, strawberry-raspberry, and plum.  My mom’s jam is my favorite (more specifically the strawberry-raspberry).  Check out my husband’s awesome cursive on that label, though!  Also, those ribbons were left over from our invites, thrifty!


My husband likes to dance, so, he had fun with the garter.

C25K week 1 day 2

This workout was much smoother for me than week 1 day 1.  I ran it in 70 degree sunny weather whereas day 1 was about 40 degrees.  I didn’t deal with my hip flexor hurting, but did have some left quad pain.  (Old high school lacrosse injury.)  The workout was the exact same for day 1 and 2, and will be tomorrow for day 3 as well.  I am excited for week 2 to begin on Tuesday which is a strange feeling for me because I have never been excited about a workout regimen before.

I ran with Elizabeth in the stroller and my husband beside me, cracking jokes and running weirdly whenever he got bored.


I did a few yoga stretches after the workout mainly to target my hips and legs and have no soreness the following day.  Yay!  Wish me luck with my last day of week 1 tomorrow!

C25K week 1 day 1 followup

The evening following my first day of the c25k training I felt a bit weak in the legs and my left hip flexor wasn’t the best, but the following morning (this morning) both of my hips were sore.  My leg muscles were also a bit tender.  I took a long, easy walk midmorning to keep my body in motion, (as best as I could with Oscar who rubs his face on the ground whenever he has his gentle leader on, haha).

I am actually looking forward to my “week 1 day 2 workout” so much more than I ever imagined I would be.  I plan on doing day 2 with the scheduled group and day 3 on Sunday so that there is at least one rest day between each workout but I think I will need to begin incorporating another workout for the other days of the week when I’m not running.

If you have recommendations for types of workouts, preferably that will boost my jogging skills, and not make my bottom half too sore, let me know!  What I am currently thinking is just to incorporate my typical yoga and some simple bodyweight workouts for my upper body and core.

C25K week 1 day 1

Fitness is going to be the death of me.  Today I joined a Marine Corps spouse group called the Stroller Warriors which is a group of runners, with strollers for their littles.  I was fortunate in that today they were starting a training specifically for beginner runners.  C25K, couch to 5k, is a program through a free app called Zanlab fitness.

I showed up with the group which was huge, met a great girl who ended up being my running buddy for the day, and we did the training.  It consisted of 5 minutes of a brisk walk for the warmup, then 1 minute of jogging and 1.5 minutes of walking.  We did the run/walk alternating for 20 minutes total not including the 5 minute warmup and a 5 minute cooldown.  It was a total of 8 minutes of running.

In the beginning it seemed too easy, the 60 seconds went by quickly, but by the end I was glad to have a buddy giving me some accountability.  The app has 3 workouts a week for 8 weeks, which is the total time from the couch to running a 5k.  I can’t wait to improve my cardio and get into jogging!

However, if you know any great tips or tricks to prevent my left hip flexor from hurting after a jog please pass the info on.