In most aspects of life my family lives by the motto “if it ain’t broke don’t fix it,” however within our relationships at home and surrounding our home, we don’t want things to break, ever.
With the extra energy I’ve gained since removing toxic relationships I’ve been able to focus on improving the positive relationships in my life. In order to do this I first had to recognize where I was lacking as a spouse, mother, or friend. I cannot try to improve these relationships by dictating what others should improve, as that would have the opposite outcome, I must focus on and refine myself.
I purchased a book called Love Unending by Becky Thompson and began reading it this morning.
In her story, Becky describes her father as her inspiration. He is patient and so obviously loving. She seeks his relationship advice, which is to love your spouse as though it’s your first day of marriage. She then goes on to say that her ideal relationship point to aspire toward was actually not then, but prior to her and her husband’s marriage, which I agree for ours.
When we got married we had already been living together, our roommate was a drunk who was sleeping with one of my sisters, my husband was working about 80 hours a week (many of them overnight shifts), and I was working part time and a student full time. Talk about never again. It was stressful.
Prior to our engagement we were both college students, living on campus, with a lot of free time and a healthy amount of responsibility. It was perfect, the only thing that was better then than now was that we had predictable schedules. Now, he never knows when he’ll be home from work, whether it be 3:30 or 10:00; he’s gone for weeks on end, and almost all of our attention is focused on the girls.
The first task in Becky’s book is to greet your spouse how you would greet them in the prime of your relationship. I was happy to see Will simply for him 5 years ago. I’ll have to admit that today I’m happy to see him more for his ability to help me than for his own presence.
That will change. The next time I greet him I will greet him as I did for during the firey part of our relationship.
I am immersed in this task, and we will walk in love. ❤
To read to the second task click here